Genital Herpes: How to Care for Your Teen

Genital herpes is an infection caused by a virus. It spreads through sex or close sexual contact.

Genital herpes can cause sores in the genital and/or anal area. These sores go away but can come back.

While there's no cure for herpes, it is a manageable condition. Treatment with antiviral medicine can help the sores get better faster, prevent them from coming back, and make them less severe if they do come back. Antivirals can also lower the risk of spreading genital herpes to others during sex.

Care Instructions

Treatment

  • If prescribed, encourage your teen to take antiviral medicine exactly as instructed. 
  • If your teen has pain from sores, it can help to: 
    • Place a bag of ice wrapped in a towel on the area for 5–10 minutes every few hours. They shouldn't put ice directly on the skin.
    • Sit in a small amount of cool or lukewarm plain water (no soap or bubble bath).
    • Wear cotton underwear and avoid clothes that are tight or that rub.
    • Take acetaminophen (Tylenol® or a store brand) OR ibuprofen (Advil®, Motrin®, or a store brand) if the health care provider says it's OK.

Other Instructions

  • Talk to your teen about ways to lower their risk of spreading herpes to others, such as:
    • avoiding sex when they have sores
    • avoiding sex if they have pain, tingling, burning, or itching in the genital, anal, or buttock area (this can be a sign that the sores are coming back)
    • always using a condom when having sex (vaginal, oral, anal) 
    • taking antiviral medicines to lower the level of virus in the body
  • Talk to your teen about having an open conversation about their genital herpes with sex partners. By telling them, they can work together to prevent herpes from spreading.
  • Follow the health care provider's instructions about your teen being tested for other STDs (sexually transmitted diseases, also called STIs or sexually transmitted infections). 
  • Be sure your teen gets all doses of the human papillomavirus (HPV) vaccine (shot). HPV is an STD that can lead to some kinds of cancer and genital warts.

Talk to your teen about choices they can make to help prevent STDs, like using a latex condom every time they have sex.

Call Your Health Care Provider if...

  • You have questions about the medicine.
  • The sores get worse.
  • The sores go away and then come back.
  • Your teen has signs of another STD (such as an abnormal discharge, belly pain, or pain when peeing).
  • Your teen can't pee.

Go to the ER if...

Your teen gets a bad headache and/or a stiff neck. Very rarely the herpes virus can cause swelling of the lining of the brain.

More to Know

How does the herpes virus spread? People can get infected with herpes when the virus has contact with a break in the skin in or around the mouth or genital area. This can happen during sex (vaginal, oral, and anal) or very close sexual contact.

Genital herpes can spread even if there are no sores. That's because the virus can still be active on the skin near the genitals and anus.

Condoms can't always prevent the virus from spreading because they don't cover all areas where the virus can live. But it's still very important to always use condoms when having sex to prevent other STDs. 

Is genital herpes caused by the same virus that causes cold sores? Genital herpes is usually caused by a herpes virus called HSV-2. Cold sores are usually caused by HSV-1. But sometimes HSV-1 can spread to the genitals through oral sex and cause genital herpes.

What can make the sores come back? Another episode of sores can be brought on by stress, illness, being overly tired, or being in sunlight. Females may be more likely to get sores when they have their periods. Sometimes the sores come back without a clear reason.